Self-care is increasingly recognized as a foundation for wellbeing—not just a luxury, but a vital part of maintaining physical, emotional, and social health (Ayala et al., 2021; World Health Organization, 2022). Self-Care is about everyday actions that support your unique needs and happiness (Mills et al., 2018).

What self-care looks like varies for everyone. For some, it’s sharing meals, spending time outdoors, listening to music, or engaging in spiritual or community traditions (Moodley et al., 2020; Sue & Sue, 2022). Research shows these activities can help reduce stress, support emotional health, and strengthen social connection (Ayala et al., 2021; Mills et al., 2018).

Caring for your body—by eating nutritious foods, getting enough sleep, and staying active—can boost your energy and physical health (Ayala et al., 2021; Slade et al., 2017). Emotional self-care, such as journaling, talking with a friend, or practicing mindfulness, is linked to better stress management and emotional regulation (Mills et al., 2018; Suleiman-Martos et al., 2020)

Self-care can also improve relationships and help you focus better at work and home (Ayala et al., 2021; Sorenson et al., 2016). The most effective habits are those that fit your values, culture, and personal circumstances (Moodley et al., 2020). 

If you’re ready to build self-care routines that truly work for you, reaching out for support from a mental health professional can help you get started. Our team is here to provide effective, evidence-based solutions to help you in building a secure, resilient self, and help strengthen your relationships. 

About the Author:

Dr. Shasha Oosthuizen, C.Psych. (Supervised Practice), is a psychologist in Clinical and Counselling Psychology at the Centre for Interpersonal Relationships, working under the supervision of Dr. Lila Hakim, C.Psych. Her doctorate dissertation focused on self-care. She provides therapy to adult individuals and couples for a wide range of concerns, using various treatment modalities tailored to each client’s unique goals and needs. She welcomes clients from all backgrounds and is committed to offering a nonjudgmental, compassionate, and authentic therapeutic space. Learn more: https://cfir.ca/about/toronto-team/shasha-oosthuizen/

References

Ayala, G. X., et al. (2021). Self-care as a health-promoting behavior: A systematic review. American Journal of Health Promotion, 35 (2), 263-275.

Mills, J., Wand, T., & Fraser, J. A. (2018). Self-care in mental health nursing: A meta-synthesis of qualitative studies. International Journal of Mental Health       Nursing, 27(2), 662-677.

Moodley, R., Gielen, U. P., & Wu, R. (2020). Global Perspectives in Multicultural Counselling: A Handbook for the 21^st Century. Routledge.

Slade, S. C., et al. (2017). Consensus on exercise reporting template (CERT): Explanation and elaboration statement.  British Journal of Sports Medicine, 50 (23), 1428-1437.

Sorenson, C., Bolick, B., Wright, K., & Hamilton, R. (2016). Understanding compassion fatigue in healthcare providers: A review of current literature. Journal    of Nursing Scholarship, 48 (5), 456-465.

Sue, D. W., & Sue, D. (2022). Counselling the Culturally Diverse: Theory and Practice (9^th ed.) Wiley. 

Suleiman-Martos, N., et al. (2020). The effect of mindfulness training on burnout syndrome in nursing: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Journal of        Advanced Nursing, 76 (5), 1124-1140.

World Health Organization. (2022). Self-care interventions for health. https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/self-care-health-interventions

In a world where technology often leads us to feel more isolated than connected, a simple, eight-minute phone call to a friend or loved one can be a powerful antidote to loneliness and the stressors of daily life. This seemingly small act of reaching out can have profound effects on our mental well-being, offering a quick yet meaningful way to enhance our mood and strengthen our connections with others.

A study published in JAMA Psychiatry (Kahlon et al., 2021) sheds light on the impact of these brief, empathy-driven conversations. Individuals who received empathetic calls for just four weeks reported significant reductions in feelings of loneliness, depression, and anxiety. These findings highlight the remarkable power of human connection and the potential of a simple phone call to offer comfort and understanding on our busiest days.

The concept of an eight-minute catch-up call is not just about checking a box on our social to-do list; it’s about creating a space for genuine connection and support. Here’s how you can make the most of an eight-minute phone call:

1. Clear Boundaries: Setting a specific timeframe provides a clear beginning and end, making it easier to fit into busy schedules.

2. Focused Connection: Knowing there’s a limited time encourages both parties to focus on meaningful conversation, enhancing the quality of interaction.

3. Reduces Overwhelm: The brevity avoids the potential for the call to feel like a burden, making it more likely for future connections.

4. Avoids Missing Wrap-up Cues: With a predetermined limit, both individuals are on the same page about when the conversation will end, avoiding any awkwardness.

5. Encourages Regularity: The ease of committing to eight minutes can lead to more frequent check-ins, strengthening relationships over time.

Initiating the Eight-Minute Catch-Up:

Simply ask, “Do you have eight minutes for a quick catch-up?” This question sets the stage for a focused, meaningful conversation that respects each other’s time and commitments. In times of uncertainty or when the weight of the world feels too heavy to bear, knowing that someone is just a phone call away can make all the difference.

As we navigate the complexities of modern life, let’s remember the value of picking up the phone and reaching out. Just eight minutes can brighten someone’s day, deepen our relationships, and remind us of the joy found in simple human connection.

Laura Moore, MPsy., is an integrative therapist at the Centre For Interpersonal Relationships (CFIR) in Toronto under the supervision of Dr. Lila Z. Hakim, C. Psych. Laura provides psychological services to adults and couples experiencing a wide range of concerns. Laura has a particular interest and expertise in relationship distress, with an emphasis on interpersonal and couple relationship functioning. Laura has helped countless individuals navigate issues related to intimacy, fertility, sex, infidelity, separation and divorce. Additionally, her past research focuses on cultivating spousal attunement following traumatic experiences. 

Kahlon, M. K., Aksan, N., Aubrey, R., Clark, N., Cowley-Morillo, M., Jacobs, E. A., … & Tomlinson, S. (2021). Effect of Layperson-Delivered, Empathy-Focused Program of Telephone Calls on Loneliness, Depression, and Anxiety Among Adults During the COVID-19 Pandemic: A Randomized Clinical Trial. JAMA Psychiatry, 78(6), 616-622. https://doi.org/10.1001/jamapsychiatry.2021.0113

Existential thinking has boiled to a crescendo for many since the first pandemic began. “What is my purpose?” “What does everything mean?”; there’s no shortage of questions keeping people awake at night. In the last installment of the three-part ‘Mind-Body-Wellness Sessions’ series, Tracie Lee, M.A., R.P. (registered psychotherapist at Centre for Interpersonal Relationships – Ottawa) and Stephanie Karlovits, (founder and CEO of EPIC Fitness + Lifestyle ) share insights on supporting your physical and/ or psychological well-being by managing persistent existential thought patterns. Breathe deep, get present, and listen in now:

We love it when great insights come together! Tracie Lee, (registered psychotherapist at Centre for Interpersonal Relationships – Ottawa) and Stephanie Karlovits, (founder and CEO of EPIC Fitness + Lifestyle) recently recorded a 3-part mini-series called ‘Mind-Body-Wellness Sessions.’ The series explores ways to make psychological and physical wellbeing a priority in our day to day living, and why it matters.

In episode 1, Tracie and Stephanie discuss why it’s often essential to integrate the mind and body, especially during challenging times. Check it out!